For every introvert, dates can be nerve racking as they naturally have the tendency to feel uncomfortable around other people, especially those they’re meeting for the first time.
However, before you think of going on a scheduled date—or more so before you start harbouring the idea of going on a date—it is best to give yourself some time to ‘practice’. A fantastic way to accomplish this would be to locate escorts in London who are quite sophisticated and can wine and dine with you, helping you practice your communication skills to build up your confidence before you go out on your actual date.
According to Sex Tech Guide, a UK company has developed an app that provides a place for escorts to locate client. Smooci, is an application with the sole purpose to provides a unique way to connect escorts with customers in an extremely safe and secure way.
Introverts can take full advantage of this platform as it has already been operating in several regions like Hong Kong, Berlin and Singapore.However, as of the time of writing this, the company currently lists its London location as “coming soon”.
This might appear slightly strange as Smooci is a British company, but so far it has been unable to launch successfully there.
The difficulties encountered can be attributed to the complex laws governing prostitution in the UK, whereas paying for sex isn’t considered illegal. However, most of the activities associated with it are illegal, building up complications for companies like Smooci and inadvertently endangering the lives of people.
For some, the idea of booking an escort via an app—or the website—might be improper, but for introverts and many others, the main idea behind such innovation is not only to help keep the sex workers and customers safe, but to provide a means for practicing dates and building up self-confidence.
The app provides age verification therefore the customer is aware of everything before furthering engagements. Additionally, females who use to platform to offer services equally have the option of send their location to verify their safety.
The payment model of Smocci doesn’t include obtaining a percentage of the money the client offers the escort, instead there’s a charge to use the platform. Customers are mandated to pay a specified amount of money to access premium features, while escorts are charged for each connection.
However, they can book one for free every three days with the first three days being free of charge. Despite many people find the whole idea distasteful, this does nothing to change the reality of sex work—and ensuring the safety of those involved in the industry should surely be encouraged.
With technology improving the quality of life, this new app surely aids what’s regarded as the ‘world’s oldest profession’, by making it safer and eliminating the ability of sex traffickers to earn money illegally.
Furthermore, for introverts, the app provides them with a platform to try out some basic dating etiquettes that can help ensure that the time spent becomes memorable when going out with their actual dates. Some of the few tips you can try out on an escort to enhance your social skills are:
Don’t try to be pressure yourself to become perfect.
According to Dr. Ellen Hendriksen, author of How to Be Yourself, Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety, “A date can too often feel like a performance, or worse, an evaluation, which makes us freeze up.”
For introverts who view going on a date as a daunting task, it is best to manage your expectations by expecting some few awkward moments.
“[It’s] much better to expect an awkward silence or two and a couple of jokes that fall flat,” said Dr. Ellen.
Discover what type of date makes you comfortable
Introverts would typically avoid crowded place, however, it is probably best to avoid going to a concert or anywhere with too much people.
“I think anything too noisy and distracting is just going to lead to you shutting down more,” said Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences of the University of Massachusetts, Amherst. “Your best foot forward is really capitalizing on your strengths, and it’s being quiet and reflective.”
Also, trial dates are a great way to discover where your strengths lie in terms of conversation topics and for those who may worried about running out of things to talk about, you get the chance to pre-plan your conversations.
“You can find out a little bit about the person ahead of time and have topics that won’t run into dead-ends,” notes Dr. Whitbourne.
Get feedback on every date
Depending on how many escorts you decide to have a handful of dates with, it would extremely useful to have them evaluate your own behaviour during these dates.
“If you’re insecure about your social skills, you could get feedback from close friends and find out how you’re coming across,” said Dr. Whitbourne.